"It is well. It is well with my soul!"
"It is well. It is well with my soul!"
May the Lord continue to strengthen her and allow her faith to be a witness to others. I am so thankful for her and I am so in love with her. She is truly a woman of God. I pray for the Spirit of God to provide her emotional security, peace, and endurance. Ephesians 5:31-33 reminds us, “… and the two will become one flesh”. When two become one, nothing can affect one without affecting the other. Becoming one with each other frees each of us. It means to be who you are as an individual. You are also called to care for your spouse, as you care for yourself, learning to anticipate his or her needs and helping your spouse to become all they are meant to be. Sacrificial giving should be at the center of your every thought. You should not want anything for yourself, so long as, your spouse has a need of any kind. Each of us should lay down our selfish desires to meet the needs of our spouse.
For me, as a husband, there is nothing I desire to do more than serve my wife by laying down my life for her. Sadly, I have failed more often than I am willing to admit. Humbly, I sit and accept my wife laying down her life for me. Anyone who knows her, knows that she has a servant’s heart so big it consumes her every waking moment. Heck, I think while she is sleeping, she is making a list of who or how she is going to serve when she wakes. She has high expectations and thus seeks to draw the potential out of herself and everyone else she knows. She leads with love, compassion, and conviction. Did I mention she leads with conviction? She never gives up! I am the recipient of her care in my time of need. I am thankful for her … so thankful. God has blessed me with Stephanie and we have become one. I feel everything she feels and she feels everything I feel before we know we feel it.
Here is a quick example of her heart. Everyone knows she is a clean freak. Like, she is so committed to getting the dust and dirt off the baseboards, she is willing to take the shellac off them or she is willing to take the chrome off a sink if that means killing one more un-expectant bacteria. We arrived in Houston on Sunday at 8:00 PM. By the time, we went to bed all the counters, tables, shelves, cabinets, handles, etc. were wiped down with alcohol wipes, all the dishes were washed by hand or placed in the dishwasher, all the appliances where wiped down clean inside and out, etc., etc. Her goal was to have a sterile environment for my care. She made a germ-free haven for me. How great is my wife!
If you are married or thinking about getting married, I want to encourage you to seek to serve your spouse. Learn to give up your rights for your spouse. Don’t hang on to a thread of selfish desire or pride. Don’t wait to be asked to do something, just do it. Ask yourself, if you were ever in need, who would you trust to be there for you in your greatest need? If it is not your spouse, change that now. Build into your relationship until you can say you have become one.
Stephanie, I love you with my whole mind, body, and soul. You are my everything and I give God thanks that He gave me to you and you to me … forever! We are one! Tom
Our “to do” was NOT a secular contract, but a spiritual decision almost 33 years ago, and it will always be. Praise be to God!
DAY 1 - REJOICE
Stephanie and I moved in to our apartment yesterday on a "rainy" Houston day and woke up to more of the same; but I was reminded of these song lyrics again. As I thought about Psalm 118:24 and that "This is the day", I was drawn to the reality that I am not alone. I get to be here with my beautiful wife, Stephanie, and with my Lord. How blessed am I? I get to walk this path with my soulmate and with my Savior. Now that brings great peace.
Make it a great day and be sure to rejoice as today is only here for a moment and you don't want to waste even one second of it. Hug someone, love someone, hold someone, forgive someone ... but in all of that, rejoice, for this is the day, the Lord hath made!
"This is the day, this is the day.
That the Lord has made, that the Lord has made.
We will rejoice, we will rejoice,
And be glad in it, and be glad in it.
This is the day that the Lord has made.
We will rejoice and be glad in it.
This is the day, this is the day
That the Lord has made."
Today we wrap up our visit to MD Anderson with a consultation with Dr. Fuller. He is our Radiation Oncologist. He will give us his final radiation recommendation. His level of care and concern comforts us greatly. Personally, I like him because he is matter of fact. I like the truth, nothing but the truth. We gain incredible confidence in his words. We will return on March 6th to start treatment.
I was recently reminded of the scripture below by Connie Hallam and how, "The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still." These are great words. To be still means to rest in the Lord and trust that he will deliver you. These words were especially comforting yesterday as they completed a detailed MRI to develop a specific radiation plan. In fact, I had no choice but to be still. They built a mesh mask for me to wear during treatment to keep me still. Boy did it ever, they put the mask over my face and stretched it so tight it caused my scan to poke through the mesh and it left a mesh pattern on my face when it was over an hour later. As I was lying there, completely unable to move my head, Connie's words came to mind. While I was anxious at first, these words comforted me and helped me to be still, not only during the MRI, but also in my spirit. I simply asked the Lord to give me peace and comfort and He did. He delivered me from my own anxiety. I was able to cast my fears on Him and he received them.
As you read the scripture below, please notice the response of Moses and the people of Israel. They sang, they rejoiced, and they exalted His name for the victory He had given them.
My request and prayer for all of my family and friends are to join us and sing, rejoice and exalt His name for His victory. God is so good and the only reasonable response to any storm or challenge is to give Him the glory. He will use it for good. We love you all and pray that your faith is increased. Thanks for walking with us and for your prayers.
PLEASE READ AND PRAY THESE WORDS WITH ME
Exodus 15:1-3 NLT "Then Moses and the people of Israel sang this song to the LORD: “I will sing to the LORD, for he has triumphed gloriously; he has hurled both horse and rider into the sea. The LORD is my strength and my song; he has given me victory. This is my God, and I will praise him— my father’s God, and I will exalt him! The LORD is a warrior; Yahweh is his name!”
RICH MULLINS AND THE RAGAMUFFIN BAND
His words have so much reality and compassion in them, they can't help but draw you in. He finishes with a beautiful song and video about a father who leads his son to walk again. It may cause a tear or two.
Step by Step by Rich Mullins
Don't Focus on the Storm!
Just prior to the versus below, Jesus was healing the sick, speaking truth into their lives and filling the bellies of over five thousand people. Remember, Jesus had crossed the lake to get away to rest and pray. He had not yet done that as he had compassion on the people and their needs.
Matthew 14:22-33 NLT “Immediately after this, Jesus insisted that his disciples get back into the boat and cross to the other side of the lake, while he sent the people home. After sending them home, he went up into the hills by himself to pray. Night fell while he was there alone.
What a good lesson for all of us. Jesus wanted to be alone with the Father in prayer, he wanted time to rest and be refreshed, but his compassion for the people came first. However, as soon as he had gotten the disciples on their way and dismissed all the people, he remembered to worship and pray to the Father. He pleased the Father by serving and tending his people, but he knew the importance of setting time aside to be refreshed in prayer and worship. Are you as guilty as I am? It seems I make excuses all the time. What excuses do you make about serving others, about not worshipping, about not praying or about not reading God's word ~ enough? Are the things of this world really that much more important than a relationship with God, through his son, Jesus? I figure, if Jesus, can stop what he is doing to serve me, I can and should stop what I am doing to serve him. How about you?
Meanwhile, the disciples were in trouble far away from land, for a strong wind had risen, and they were fighting heavy waves. About three o’clock in the morning Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. When the disciples saw him walking on the water, they were terrified. In their fear, they cried out, “It’s a ghost!” But Jesus spoke to them at once. “Don’t be afraid,” he said. “Take courage. I am here! ”
While Jesus was still praying, he was aware that his disciples were in a storm. These scriptures give us great hope and assurance that he is always with us and is always aware of what is going on in our lives. Jesus came to the disciples by walking on water. Check that out, he was walking on water in a storm. The disciples were in a boat. The disciples fear must have already been on high alert because, even though they needed help, they were terrified to see him coming to them. Jesus spoke to them at once to calm their fear. He said, "Don't be afraid, take courage ~ I am here!" Imagine Jesus speaking to you in your storm right now. He is saying to you, the same words he spoke to the disciples, "Don't be afraid, take courage ~ I am here!" Oh, how that is music to my soul. How about you? Do you receive great comfort knowing that Jesus already knows your storm? That he is present with you. That you are never alone.
Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?” When they climbed back into the boat, the wind stopped. Then the disciples worshiped him. “You really are the Son of God!” they exclaimed."
Even though Jesus already spoke to the disciples and assured them that he was here to help them, Peter still asked for confirmation. He said to Jesus, "Lord, if it's really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water." Without hesitation, Jesus said, "Yes, come". So, Peter obeyed and was walking on water until he got distracted by the storm. He allowed his fear to set in and he allowed his own lack of understanding to distract him from an intimate moment with the Lord. He took his eyes off Jesus and immediately began to sink. How often do we do the same. We call on Jesus and then when he doesn't respond immediately or doesn't respond in a away we expect, we get distracted by our own efforts or our own back up plans. Whatever happened to waiting on Jesus? Peter took his eyes off of Jesus and began to sink. Let me re-state that Peter was walking on water. Then he wasn't. Even though Peter took his eyes off of Jesus and began to sink, he still knew he needed Jesus and yelled out to him in the midst of his distraction. Jesus reached out his hand and saved him. Jesus said, "You have so little faith. Why did you doubt me?" How often are we just like Peter? The good news is that Jesus knows us and came for us. He will return to collect his own. Are you one of his own? When they got back into the boat, the wind stopped. After they saw the miracle, they worshipped him. I think we should worship him before we see the miracle. We should have faith that Jesus always keeps his promises. How often are we amazed like the disciples and exclaim, "You really are the Son of God!"
I hope you find these verses encouraging and full of great hope. For me, they speak volumes into my life as I am in a storm. I know I have to keep my eyes on Jesus and I have to believe in his promises, no matter how he chooses to deliver them.
Look into his eyes and accept him into your heart. It will change your life, just like it changed mine. I love you, but Jesus loves you more. Thanks for your prayers. Our Lord and Savior loves to hear our voices.
90 DAY LIST
As you consider what's important in life, I want you to make a 90 day list. What would be on your list?
Time would be on my list. We have nothing but time, until we don't. Then everything is subject to time. Time is more valuable than all the riches in the world.
Friends and family would also be on my list. We don't need them, until we do. Then everything is about those we love. Time or the lack thereof, softens the heart. It breaks down all barriers. Compassion cuts to the depths of our souls. Love prevails.
Your salvation decision is on my list, until it's not. You will either accept Jesus or reject Him. I pray and hope you will consider accepting Him into your life.
While there are so many unknowns; we serve a great God! He loved us so much, He sent His one and only son, Jesus, to heal us from our sin.
Romans 10:9-10, tell us that, “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord (total surrender),” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified (declared not guilty), and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved (from eternal death)."
If you haven't already accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, won't you consider doing that right now by reading and claiming the words of Romans 10:9-10 for yourself?
As Stephanie and I ramp up for a 90 day journey, I find myself being overwhelmingly grateful for a God who loves us; for all the friends and family with their unstoppable faith, that have and are still praying for my complete healing with no side affects; for all those who have been a listening ear; for all those who have quietly behind the scenes taking actions to help us prepare; and for those who have agreed to fill the gap in our absence.
Love you all!
Making Memories - I received this heart-warming card today from Katherine. Her card caused me to reflect on all the youth that God has put in my life. While I was their to help them, little did they know, that they were my life blood for so many years. Their joy was contagious week after week. I am so thankful that God allowed me to be part of their life then and now. Thank you, Katherine, for your kind words and sharing your memories. I can't wait to see you and Lily. I love you and remember, Jesus loves you even more!
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